Family resemblance
When Beth was a baby, especially from about six to 12 months old, she looked just like me. Her baby pictures and my pictures at that age could have been the same kid. And now, at 2, she suddenly looks like Eric. Her big brown eyes, her mischievous smile--she's her daddy's little girl. And yet other people sometimes still tell me she looks like me.
With Lucy, I never have been able to decide who she looks like, or if she resembles her older sister. At first I thought she looked entirely dissimilar, then for awhile I thought they looked alike. Is it weird to not be able to make up your mind about your own kid? Maybe it's because I see her every day; her face is so familiar to me that it's hard to compare objectively, categorizing which features match and which don't.
Yesterday I took some pictures of the kids playing at the park, and I thought one shot of Lucy looked so much like Beth at that age. I showed the two pictures to Eric, and he said, "Sure, there are similarities, but I think they look really different."
So I thought I'd poll you, my readers. Is it just that they are about the same age and in the same pose here, or do they really look alike?
With Lucy, I never have been able to decide who she looks like, or if she resembles her older sister. At first I thought she looked entirely dissimilar, then for awhile I thought they looked alike. Is it weird to not be able to make up your mind about your own kid? Maybe it's because I see her every day; her face is so familiar to me that it's hard to compare objectively, categorizing which features match and which don't.
Yesterday I took some pictures of the kids playing at the park, and I thought one shot of Lucy looked so much like Beth at that age. I showed the two pictures to Eric, and he said, "Sure, there are similarities, but I think they look really different."
So I thought I'd poll you, my readers. Is it just that they are about the same age and in the same pose here, or do they really look alike?
6 comments:
Nope, I think they look entirely different. Sure, they have the same skin tone and the pictures perhaps, as you pointed out, are so similar in pose they bring to mind similarities, but to me the girls look very different.
People are different because of different cromosome.
This is a great topic! I think they look very similar. They have a similar face shape, nose, cheeks...
I have pondered this very thing with my own children. I look at my baby girl and there are times I see me, sometimes I see my mom (who has some features that are quite different from me), sometimes I see Mark, sometimes I see my father-in-law...it really is amazing all the resemblances that can flash across one little tiny face. All that, and yet, she is still her own unique self.
Another side of the issue is
that my daughter, who joined our family through adoption, is regularly told she looks like one or other of the little kids, who happen to be my biological children. I have two cousins who were adopted and they could not look more like their adoptive parents! So, family resemblance is a funny thing. How much is nature and how much is nurture?
It is so interesting to see a little of you and your spouse in your children. I do think your girls look alike though I do notice their smiles are different which may be an indication of their different personalities. I don't know them other than here so I'm sure those close to them see them differently than me.
Just a comment on heather's comment. My sister and I are both adopted - we look nothing alike other than blond hair & blue eyes - but I have been told by many people that I look like my Dad. So I wonder how much we pick up mannerisms and facial expresions from those we love the most, even if we don't have the biological similarities.
You have AMAZINGLY gorgeous kids.
I have to agree that they ARE both gorgeous. I do think that they look similar.
Don't feel bad about about not being to make up your mind about your own kid(s). We never could either. People say that my son is the spitting image of my husband, but our daughter--well we never really could tell. Now that she's 8, people are saying she looks more and more like me, but honestly I don't see it.
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